Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you’re going to live your life. — Joel Osteen
I think we all need reminders once in a while that happiness is a choice. We all have problems, no way around it. It is our response to life’s situations that makes all the difference.
Some days, when I do the same thing for the umpteenth time, I wonder why I even bother, it will just need to be done again later. Or when I am faced with the same problem again and again, I wonder if I can ever get past it. Life can be overwhelming. Very overwhelming at times. But life can be great too! It is the hard times that helps us to better appreciate the good times, and so both are needed.
I have often thought about my mom, raising seven children (eight when you count my dad). She has definitely done her fair share mundane house chores. I asked her once why I have never heard her complain about housework and she told me it’s because she has found that when you focus on what you appreciate in life, it makes life much sweeter.
So today, I am remembering the sweet things in my life. I am grateful to have a wonderful family that I absolutely love to serve. And even if I have to clean the toilet a million more times for them, I am grateful to have good health that gives me the ability to do so. I am grateful to have freedom to choose if I want to clean that toilet today or not. And lastly, I am grateful to live in such a beautiful world, so when I am done cleaning toilets, I can go enjoy the beauty that surrounds me!
When I get into pessimistic slumps, I often remember Dr. Glenn Latham’s advice, “Today is not forever!” When we are in the midst of problems, we have a hard time seeing beyond the issue at hand. Forgetting that we will soon be past this brief moment in our life. This thought can change my attitude in an instant. Even when my child is throwing a tantrum, it helps me to remember that this tantrum doesn’t define me or my child. Someday he/she will go on to do great things in life and that tantrum will be long forgotten.
Though life will surely throw some curve balls my way, I choose and will continue to choose to be happy.
Children aren’t happy without something to ignore. And that’s what parents were created for. — Ogden Nash, The Parents
This post if for you parents out there. Not too long ago, I was struggling because I had become Nagging Mom. Something I had promised myself while young that I would never become. But no matter what I tried, it seemed like anytime I wanted my kids to do something around the house, I had to become Nagging Mom.
Then I stumbled upon a simple solution that has helped cure my Nagging Mom problems. The solution has had other added benefits for both child and parent alike.
I purchased a couple of small dry-ease boards, one for each child, positioned them in a central location in our home and when there are things to be done, I simply write down a list (my kids like to have check boxes to mark off). Sometimes I make the list once a day, sometimes more. For my beginning reader child, I draw pictures next to the words to help him determine what is on the list. We usually go over their list during breakfast or after they get home from school and I give them a time frame that I want the chores done by. Free-time always comes after they have completed all the chores.
Since I have started the chore list, I have found that my kids are a lot happier to help around the house. Here are some of the other benefits I have found from using the chores list;
FOR THE KIDS
- It makes them feel important and needed
- Gives them clear expectations, no more “I didn’t know I had to do that”
- It boost their self esteem, they really enjoy crossing off the chores and are always proud when their list is complete
- Helped them become more organized
- It has helped my beginning reader with his reading skills
FOR THE PARENT
- Helps to cure Nagging Mom/Dad
- The house seems to stay cleaner
- We generally have more family time because the children stay focused while doing their chores and they don’t need constant reminders, saving us both time!
It can be done a variety of ways, but I like the flexibility I get with using the dry-ease board. If I want my kids to do their usual chores, I put that on the list. If I want my kids pick up something they dropped on the floor, I put that on the list. The possibilities are endless with this solution and it is easy to keep up on, but I know that we all have to find something that works for us.
Since I have found this solution, I wanted to spread the message to everyone I knew because I had brought so much peace of mind to our home.
If you have found any solution to helping you stay more organized, please share!